The "Friend" Relationship

"Too late we learn, a man must hold his friend unjudged, accepted, trusted to the end."

- John Boyle O'Reilly

I am an observer and a listener in this world. That is the easy part. I can also be judgemental of all who I come into contact with. That is tough part. I am by no means so perfect that I can navigate my life flawlessly so what gives me the right to be judgemental about others life decisions? Maybe "right" is the wrong word. When hearing stories of drama around me I know that I apply the "facts" of the situation to my own set of beliefs, ethics, and organization of my own conduct. I suppose we all do that in order to make sense of our world.

Currently I have friends who I hope are making the right decisions for themselves. By "right" I am referring to decisions that will have a positive outcome for them in their futures. As it stands now, I don't agree with the way they are making decisions and can't foresee how these decision will yield the best outcome for them. I remain silent with my thoughts when in the company of these friends. I listen to their stories and worry. Again, who am I to judge? Should I break my silence and tell them what my thoughts are on the subject? I realize that if we are truly friends I should be able to say what my mind screams & they will listen without offense. Would that be possible? -OR- Do I continue to listen and trust they are making the right decisions for themselves & would not benefit from my input?

I will state this here & now. If any of my friends find themselves in my shoes now regarding decisions that I am making. Feel free to speak your minds. Even if it upsets me at the time, I know you care and our friendship will become stronger because of it.